insights from a daughter of the King, teacher, farmer's wife, and Mommy


Friends vs. Acquaintances

I think facebook should change their friend request to acquaintance request.  I have found that true friendship is rare and precious.  Throughout my life have overused, misused, and just plain  out wore out the phrase “best friend.”  Don’t get me wrong I have some best friends, I have some friends, and I have lots of acquaintances.  The older I get the more I see and value the friendships in my life.  Some friends you don’t have to talk to every day or even every week, but you could call or visit tomorrow and it would be as if you were together every day.  I have some of those and love them dearly.  But others if you don’t talk for a while, when you do talk, it’s awkward and different and you wonder, were we ever really friends?  And then there are some you talk to every day or if you don’t hear from them in a couple of days you think something’s up.   In my life I would say the big difference in a friend and an acquaintance is they know me deep down.  They know my fears, my goals, my faith, and my family.  Acquaintances are those who know your name, they may even know where you live and what kind of car you drive but that ask you how you are doing, but don’t remember your answer, and even if you said you were good and you weren’t, they wouldn’t know the difference.  Or even more importantly you may ask them and not really care what they have to say.  And then there is my friend Jesus, you know there was a time when Jesus was just my acquaintance.  Oh, I knew His name, where he was born, His mommy and daddy, I could tell you his whole life story, but He didn’t know me because I never  told Him and I never knew Him because I didn’t ask to.  You may know Jesus, but you aren’t truly experiencing Jesus until he knows you.  Tell him your fears, your goals, your faith, and your family.  Tell him everything – Call him your best friend.

2010 has not many more days and I am frantically buying gifts and addressing Christmas cards, it has occurred to me that I need to work hard to be a true friend to those who are a true friend to me and to be a even better friend to Jesus.


  1. Truer words have never been spoken! ..particularly about the friends you don't hear from for a few days and you think something's up. I thought about this very thing the other day. If they're my really good friend, what am I so worried about? I love your posts! Miss you!

  2. I hear ya, girl. Though I've lots of dear, dear friends I've moved around a lot and it's hard to keep in touch when you don't see each other on a regular basis etc.

    As I find myself in another new city /state I'm once again in the position where I've met a handful of very genuine and kind acquaintances but I'm very much craving that deep friendship factor beyond the surface pleasantries as well.

    As I wait, I'm so thankful for that ever faithful friend I have in Jesus as well.


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