it is at this point that we make a decision
a) slap them
b) reply with "because i said so"
c) calmly explain to them the significance of being a citizen and their obligation to life in general
i have thought many times about choice a but never followed through
i am guilty of b but try hard not to say those words
i am working on instilling c so that explanation is not required
some of us have joined together in reading a book that addresses this giant entitlement issue that we have in our culture. Cleaning House: A Mom's 12-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement is Kay Wyma's documentary of teaching her children month by month the important things in life and that hard work isn't fun, but we all have to do it.
these are not common words in the home or society in general
work? what is that?
Wyma's sets to have her children, all five, clean their rooms daily. Meanwhile, she finds herself reflecting, how did I get here? Adopting the "it's easier to do it myself" mentality.
Aren't we all guilty. Teaching, mentoring, guiding children it's hard on the emotional well being of a person. It requires patience I can only find through the Lord himself. When you are 15 minutes into a battle of stubbornness, it takes all the strength you can muster up to hold your own, but next time it will only take a 10 minute battle. I often say it is much easier to be a bad parent than it is to be a good parent.
Cooking. Wyma's children each take a day of the week and must plan, shop, prepare, and serve their family dinner. How would your children fair? I think the biggest eye opener for myself here was that children have no concept of money and the cost of food. As a teacher, this is an area where I can assist in the entitlement. Do you take your children shopping with you? Do they know where food comes from (the agriculture activist in me comes out)?
This chapter is my favorite. I live on farm, I grew up on a farm, we play in dirt. The conversations in this chapter regarding weeds and yard work are great. The children paint and plant flowers and find happiness in their work. Are you giving your children things to be proud of, even if they aren't as perfect as you would like?
"Each day the culture drops seeds in the minds and hearts of our kids - seeds of insecurity and inadequacy, of greed and consumerism, of selfishness and cynicism. As with the acorns, our efforts at combating these invaders will be more effective if we act before they take root. We can have the conversations, present strategies, be honest, and work together to help our kids build up their defenses." page 71
how is this book affecting my life?
- i fight the battle till i win
- i let mistakes happen
- owen is cooking weekly and grocery shopping
- addie has to clean up her mess
- yes, they pull weeds
- do not worry about what others think of your parenting, your house, your children
- they are planting their own garden
- stick by your words
questions i'm asking?
- how do we stop them from thinking they need "things"?
- how do we help them recognize their significance to society as whole?
- how do we stop playing the "safety" card? we can't let them do that, they might get hurt.
how are you battling entitlement in your house?
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